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We'd all like to serve as a beacon of wisdom in our friends' lives when they're going through a hard time, but we may not always feel confident that we'll say the right thing. Giving great advice starts with simply being present.
Often you can help your friends find the answers they need within themselves. For some pointers on how to offer helpful guidance, follow Hovanessian's five tips to help you guide your friends to their own solutions. Be an active listener Ask your friend to explain her problems and listen with the intent of hearing her out rather than planning what you're going to say.
As we worry about them, issues can become overly complicated in our minds, but just by stating them out loud our problems tend to become a little bit simpler. Your friend will feel far less alone as you empathize with her.
Your questions will also help her see things in a different way and may present opportunities that she may have felt were impossible. Believe in your friend Even if you can't relate to your friend's problems, chances are her emotions — frustration, angerdisappointment or helplessness — are familiar to you. During these times, hearing encouragement can have a contagious effect. Empower your friend to change her attitude by reminding her of a time she overcame a different difficult issue.
Ask caring questions Only your friend will know what she truly needs to do, but you can help prompt her in the right direction. Rather than telling your friend you think she should leave her partner, for example, explain to her that she doesn't seem happy to you. Ask her what keeps her in the relationship. Advise within your limits Sometimes big problems are best left to the professionals. In those cases, you can still be an active listener and offer your empathy, but to help your friend find the support she is looking for you may have to nudge her in the right direction.
If the problem is much larger than your friend feels she can address on her own, suggest a counsellor. Help create a plan for change After you've worked together to hatch out your friend's emotions and have discussed the possible options for change, it's time to put it all into a plan of action.
Make the plan as focused as possible. You don't have to be a fountain of wisdom to help your friend find the answers to a problem. Simply listen actively, ask caring questions and offer continuous encouragement. Often, the biggest obstacle on a path for change is the critic inside of us. Share X. Relationships 5 tips for giving advice to your friends Share. Remember me.
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